#quoteoftheday

 

 

People come and go.

You stay.

Take care of yourself.

 

 

-Unknown

 

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The Journey (AKA Struggle) to Find Life Purpose

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Knowing what we want for life is something human race struggle with. What do you want to study? What kind of person do you want to marry? Do you even want to marry? Do you want to have kids? What is your religion? What car do you want to buy? A house or an apartment? Mac or PC?

It may sound simple, and for some people, it really is.

But some of us have a hard time doing it.

Every year I fail at my goals. But every year I reflect about it and keep on trying to find a new approach or method that can make me more successful on that matter. But as I was making my list of goals for 2016, I asked myself if any of those things would made me feel proud and good about myself ten years later. And the answer was: very few of them.

Aside from reading X books and donating blood, nothing would have a great impact in the world, or even my life in the long term.

Then, the million dollar question comes to mind:

What do I want from life?

It really may be the million dollar question. I don’t know. You don’t know. You may be saconds away from having the greatest new idea, and making a business out of it.

I really want to do something meaningful, for me and for the world. But how do I start. Am I too old to be thinking about changing people’s lives with ideas? Am I too old to start all over again? Am I too snobbish for thinking that my life has a bigger purpose, even when I don’t know what it is?

What now? What if I never find it? Oh, I will. It’s gonna take some time and a lot of reflection and evaluation. But I surely will find it.

Have you found yours yet? If so, please share with us. If you, as I am, is just taking your first steps into the unknown, please share as well. I would LOVE to hear your insights.

24 things i’ve learnt in 24 years

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Hey everyone, I know it’s been a while… I wanted to share my thoughts on life after living 24 years of it! Can you believe it? It seems like yesterday I was riding my bike in my white jumper and red socks! I must’ve learnt something since then, right? So here’s the list:

1. Doing what pleases me: if can not harm anyone, and would make you feel good, what excuse can we have for not doing what we like? Fear?

“What would you do if you weren’t afraid?”

2. To stop trying to prove myself – even if it is for me: I think that one has been my biggest weakness, I am always trying to challenge myself into reaching stupid patterns, especially when it comes to career. Nobody is perfect, and nobody is the same. Convincing me that I have to reach some level to be accepted by my family (and society) was the stupidest thing I have ever done.

3. I must learn what I love: No matter how unrelated is to your current reality, try to learn that new language that fascinates you, or that lovely dance style, to sing, to paint, to draw, to derive an equation(if you like math), or even the Relativity Theory (great book, btw). The point is: whatever you wish you knew, you can learn, and for sure it will enrich your life.

4. Forgiveness is a must: When it comes to people in our lives, at some point they are going to screw up(ourselves included). So, if you can’t forgive, your life with them is going to be hell, or you’ll have to say goodbye to those relationships.  Besides, forgiving will give you more comfort than will give them, trust me on this.

5. Less is so much more: When you realize how much stuff you have, and hw it ends up consuming your time, and your sanity, you realize there is no point spending money or time in things that really don’t belong in your life. I’m far from being called a minimalist, but I’m on the journey, and, maybe someday…

6. You can’t do everything alone.

7. It’s okay to change your mind: I’ve done it like five times today.

8. My health is my greatest asset: and not just the physical side, being mentally healthy is so important. The last couple of years I watched my grandmother going through dementia, and  it was the saddest thing. Trying to be as healthy as possible.

9. Thinking positive and praying for something work: Look, I am not a religious person, but throughout my life I have moments when doing this works so much. Do I believe that God or whatever higher being exists? I have no idea because I have no proof.

10. As long as you are in peace with your conscience, nobody’s opinion really matters: That’s gotta be the most difficult to live by. But it’s so true. Worrying about what other people think is the worst thing.

“Don’t let people live inside your head without paying rent!”

11. We can’t let challenges keep us from loving: Love is not easy, but there’s nothing better. And you are going to face challenges with everyone you love, but never stop loving because is hard. It’s hard to love humanity, I know, but we must keep on trying.

12. Don’t ever compare: while you are trying “keeping up with the Joneses”, you are not keeping up with yourself, your goals, your values and your feelings.

13. Every single person is special.

14. Discovering what you want professionally is really, really hard: I still couldn’t do it!

15. The best way to love someone is spending time with them.

16. Share your thoughts and opinions – people can’t read your mind!

17. Warm colors are not for me.

18. Being physically tired is the best recipe for a good night of sleep.

19. You can’t go anywhere without a purpose.

“If you aim at nothing, you will hit it every time.”

20. Teaching is the best way to learn something.

21.Being skinny  won’t make you love yourself more: You can’t help have some doubt on this one, especially in my case (I lost 30 pounds, two years ago). But it is true. I still have days when I’m find myself thinking “I’m fat”. But throughout my heath journey (not weight loss), I started to feed my body with less junk, and my self-respect improved. It did because I was doing this for myself.

22.If you do nothing about it, your circunstances will define you.

23. Life is short. Don’t let memories be short as well: Tell people you love them, every time, always say goodbye with a hug, talk with them, and be sure to remember every second, so you can smile when remember how much time you spend together, and not cry with regret for being all that time on social media while being in the same room with them.

24. Keeping your motivation up is key: Find somethings (a song, a book,  a podcast, a radio show, a tv show, a blog ) and read it/listen to it /watch it EVERY SINGLE DAY, as long as it keeps you fired up.

 

#quoteoftheday

The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own.

No apologies or excuses.

No one to lean on, rely on, or blame.

The gift is yours – it is an amazing journey – and you alone are responsible for the quality of it.

This is the day your life really begins.

-Bob Moawad

50 Questions That Will Free Your Mind

      l was wandering online when I came across this blog post. And it got me intrigued, because sometimes we have so much on our minds, we end up forgetting to ask some very simple, or even very important questions. Recently I did the 36 Questions That Lead to Love challenge with my bofriend, on which I intent to do a post about it soon. So, as you can imagine, I love answering questions. And for those, there are no right or wrong answers. If it will free my mind, well, I don’t know. But let’s find out.

  1. How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?   I would probably be 40 at least (I’m actually 23).
  1. Which is worse, failing or never trying? Depends on what. When it comes to personal matters, such as relationships, failing is worse. But in the majority of situations, never trying is worse.
  1. If life is so short, why do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do? Because of the need to impress our family/others/society, or caring about anybody’s opinion.
  1. When it’s all said and done, will you have said more than you’ve done? I think it’s equal. I say as much as I do.
  1. What is the one thing you’d most like to change about the world? That nobody would ever have to go through hunger.
  1. If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich? Being a student, for sure.
  1. Are you doing what you believe in, or are you settling for what you are doing? 50/50.
  1. If the average human life span was 40 years, how would you live your life differently? I would probably start having kids right now. And worry less. When you have a life expectancy that goes to a 100 years, you worry a lot about how to get there in the best shape possible, having done anything possible, which is overwhelming.
  1. To what degree have you actually controlled the course your life has taken? I have not. Well, not exactly.
  1. Are you more worried about doing things right, or doing the right things? Doing the right things, I guess.
  1. You’re having lunch with three people you respect and admire.  They all start criticizing a close friend of yours, not knowing she is your friend.  The criticism is distasteful and unjustified.  What do you do? I try to change the subject, because I would probably be very uncomfortable.
  1. If you could offer a newborn child only one piece of advice, what would it be? Enjoy your childhood as much as you can. And never forget how awesome you are.
  1. Would you break the law to save a loved one? Probably, at some level. I don’t think I would kidnap, assault someone or kill. Unless it’s self-defense.
  1. Have you ever seen insanity where you later saw creativity? In music, a lot.
  1. What’s something you know you do differently than most people? A lot of planning. For everything. More planning than doing, actually.
  1. How come the things that make you happy don’t make everyone happy? Everyone is different.
  1. What one thing have you not done that you really want to do?  What’s holding you back? Becoming a mom. Being more prepared for it.
  1. Are you holding onto something you need to let go of? Probably.
  1. If you had to move to a state or country besides the one you currently live in, where would you move and why? To somewhere in the U.S. Probably Northern California.
  1. Do you push the elevator button more than once?  Do you really believe it makes the elevator faster? No, I don’t. ’Cause I obviously don’t believe it.
  1. Would you rather be a worried genius or a joyful simpleton? A joyful simpleton.
  1. Why are you, you?I am who I am because I like to embrace my uniqueness.
  1. Have you been the kind of friend you want as a friend? Almost all the time.
  1. Which is worse, when a good friend moves away, or losing touch with a good friend who lives right near you? The second one.
  1. What are you most grateful for? Having all the resources I have ever needed to grow healthy, secure and learn a lot.
  1. Would you rather lose all of your old memories, or never be able to make new ones? Losing all of my old ones.
  1. Is is possible to know the truth without challenging it first? Maybe.
  1. Has your greatest fear ever come true? I don’t think so.
  1. Do you remember that time 5 years ago when you were extremely upset?  Does it really matter now? I don’t remember. But it had to be something shallow. It doesn’t matter anymore.
  1. What is your happiest childhood memory?  What makes it so special? Learning how to ride a bike without the training wheels all by myself. I felt like a big girl.
  1. At what time in your recent past have you felt most passionate and alive? I honestly don’t remember.
  1. If not now, then when? When it feels right. Or never.
  1. If you haven’t achieved it yet, what do you have to lose? Nothing.
  1. Have you ever been with someone, said nothing, and walked away feeling like you just had the best conversation ever? Not really.
  1. Why do religions that support love cause so many wars? Because of the people behind those institutions. They really care about politics, money and power, so they manipulate people’s beliefs in a way that favors them.
  1. Is it possible to know, without a doubt, what is good and what is evil? Most of the time, but with a lot of thinking and questioning.
  1. If you just won a million dollars, would you quit your job? I don’t really work at the moment. But I don’t think I’d quit if I had one.
  1. Would you rather have less work to do, or more work you actually enjoy doing? More work I can enjoy.
  1. Do you feel like you’ve lived this day a hundred times before? Yes.
  1. When was the last time you marched into the dark with only the soft glow of an idea you strongly believed in? Last year.
  1. If you knew that everyone you know was going to die tomorrow, who would you visit today? My family.
  1. Would you be willing to reduce your life expectancy by 10 years to become extremely attractive or famous? No.
  1. What is the difference between being alive and truly living? Doing things that make you feel whole, being with people that make you feel like you belong. Knowing that you are doing your best.
  1. When is it time to stop calculating risk and rewards, and just go ahead and do what you know is right? When you are certain of what you want.
  1. If we learn from our mistakes, why are we always so afraid to make a mistake? We try to prepare ourselves and think ahead so we don’t disappoint people. And no matter what we end up disappointing each other. If we could just forget about everyone while making a decision, we would probably take more risks.
  1. What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you? I would never worry about time.
  1. When was the last time you noticed the sound of your own breathing? An hour ago.
  1. What do you love?  Have any of your recent actions openly expressed this love? I love so many things. So I do a lot of things and I think this is an expression of that love.
  1. In 5 years from now, will you remember what you did yesterday?  What about the day before that?  Or the day before that? Yesterday… not so much. The day before…no. And the day before that, I will, because I had a job interview.
  1. Decisions are being made right now.  The question is:  Are you making them for yourself, or are you letting others make them for you? 60/40.

That was interesting. I wouldn’t  say it’s “freeing” but I think it shows me a little bit more about myself. The most difficult question was number 22, for sure.

Make sure you answer them as well.

If you did, or if you have some thoughts about it, things you agree/disagree, leave it on the comments below. 

Bye, friends!